How Is Your Teen’s Body-Image?

A Note From the L.A. Teen Therapist 

Do you know anyone who looks beautiful from the outside, but are really not nice people? Have you noticed others who are not beauty queens, but you love being with them?

Its not uncommon for teen girls to compare themselves to the airbrushed images of today’s fashion models. The media is full of photos of teens who appear to look flawless.

Without make-up, perfect lighting and good camera angles, the teen girls you see on television and billboards do not look the same as they do in real life. They get pimples and have bad hair days–like everyone else.

Each person is born with a unique look. The size and shape of one’s facial features as well as one’s body shape is usually a combination of genetics. Thus teens needs to learn how to work with what they’ve got.

Have you noticed that teens who eat fresh fruit and vegetables, and drink plenty of water seem to have good skin? Teens who exercise regularly also seem to have nice muscle tone and fit well in their clothes.

Before your teen decides to change, you may want to ask them a couple of questions. Who are they changing for? Who are they comparing themselves to? What do they like about themselves? What can they realistically change?

If they decide to make some changes, make sure they come from a place of loving themselves … for their physical appearance is just a small part of who you really are. (And hopefully, the friends they choose to surround themselves with are wise enough to know this)

If your teen is struggling, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it. I invite you take that critical next step, and allow me to demonstrate the support I can offer to you and your family.

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Get Teen Boys To Treat You With Respect

A Note From the L.A. Teen Therapist & Life Coach

Teen girls need to decide what types of behavior they are willing to tolerate from teen boys.  – Sandra

I know that it can be aggravating when guy friends tease you, but did you know that teasing is a very common form of play among guys? If you observe groups of guys who are friends, whether they be young or old, you will often hear them teasing each other. The fact that they are teasing you probably means that they like you.

At a certain age, being treated with respect becomes very important to a girl. Adolescence is a time when girls and guys start practicing more grown up behavior. During this time, however, girls tend to mature a faster than their male friends. Thus, they may still treat you like one of the guys, instead of the way you would prefer.

If the teasing is getting to be too much for you, you may want to consider setting boundaries. This means that you politely excuse yourself from situations where you don’t feel comfortable. Essentially, you are giving them a clear message that their behavior is not okay with you.

Only you can decide what types of behavior you are willing to tolerate. The good new is that as guys get older, you will discover that your male friends will put more effort into trying to please you. The key is to communicate your feelings in a polite and open manner.

Girls and guys often see the world differently. It is important to remember that during adolescence, you are learning about each other through your interactions. Patience, kindness, and forgiveness go a long way towards building a bridge between you. At the same time, you have a right to decide how you want to be treated, and its up to you to choose your friends wisely.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

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Teens: Looking Cool in Middle School

A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

Middle School is a time when the opinions of friends become very important, and pre-teens often wonder about how to fit in. – Sandra

“My bed time is way earlier than all of my friends’. They get to stay up late and watch all of the cool shows. When I see them, they’re talking about what I missed and I have no idea what to say. Should I just pretend that I know what they’re talking about?”

Adolescence is a time when you are discovering who you are and how you want to be perceived in the world. One of the challenges that everyone faces during this time is that each family has their own set of rules. The key is to respond to your parent’s requests with respect and creativity. The privilege of staying up later is something that can be earned. One option is to politely explain the situation to your parents and ask how you might earn the privilege of staying up a little later.

GET CREATIVE
Some shows that are on at night have adult language and behavior that some parents would prefer that their children not watch. It could be helpful to hear your parents opinions about the shows you are referring to. If they are open to your watching these shows, but are just concerned about you getting enough sleep on a school night, then perhaps they would consider taping them for you, and allowing you to watch them at an earlier time the following day, or on the weekend.

NEGOTIATE FOR WHAT YOU WANT
The bottom line is that there is a good chance that you will find yourself in many situations where you are not allowed to do everything that all of your friends are doing. As long as you live in your parent’s house, they will be setting some rules. The better your relationship with your parents, the better chance you have of negotiating for what it is that you want. And in those times when you don’t get your way, it’s important to know that you are not the only one who struggles with parents who set limits.

LISTEN CAREFULLY, AND ENJOY THE CONVERSATION
As for the conversations with your friends, you don’t have to pretend you know what they’re talking about. You also don’t have to reveal what time you go to bed. When you don’t know what they are talking about, try listening carefully and enjoying the conversation. Sometimes it’s nice to just be with people you like.

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Teen’s Definition Of True Friends

A Note From The Los Angeles Teen Therapist

There are many people that you may know, but there is a significant difference between acquaintances and true friends.  – Sandra

Middle school can be time when people change friends quite often, as they try to figure out who they are and who they want to spend time with. Some people like to call everyone they know their “friends,” when actually, they just happen to be in the same grade or class together.

Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram have created platforms where teens are able to accumulate “friends” who are really just followers, and not necessarily interested in spending time with you, or being there for you. It’s very easy to get caught up in these superficial measures of social success.

To me, a friend is someone who shows you, over time, that they want to be with you. A true friend is someone you can talk about all types of situations with, and work things out between you when misunderstandings arise. Friendship is an investment of time in each other’s wellbeing. It is also a reciprocal relationship, where you are both giving and receiving.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

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Teens Designing Their Future Life

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A Note From The Los Angeles Teen Therapist

What if you could create a life that suited your personality, creative gifts and unique style of expression? Can you relate to any of these descriptions? – Sandra

•    Trying to be perfect
•    Wanting to please everyone, and losing oneself in the process
•    Feeling isolated and alone
•    Feeling angry, but not having the skills to express oneself productively
•    Feeling socially awkward
•    Comparing oneself to “air-brushed” photos of celebrities and feeling inadequate

If you notice, the focus is outside yourself.

Being a child means being dependent upon your parents and needing to follow their rules.  This is also true for being a student, as well as a member of society. But at some point, you must learn to provide for your own needs. This requires that you be aware of your needs (which are different from your wants).

What do you like to do in your spare time? Are you comfortable being alone? Do you like to have music on while you study, or do you prefer silence? Do you enjoy hanging out with many friends, or just a few close ones? Does exercise relieve your stress? Do you need a full night’s sleep to avoid feeling irritable?

High school (and middle school) can be an intense time, filled with competition and the pressure to perform. For some of you, this translates into thinking that you are your grades, your looks, or who you hang out with. But honestly, you are not these external measures of success. You are a person with feelings and dreams of how you would like your life to be.

My encouragement is to honor that part of you that longs to find people with whom you can relax and just be yourself. I understand that your parents may have expectations that they wish you to fulfill. Part of the process of parenting is about providing opportunities for their children to experience new things and become self-sufficient. But if your parent wants you to go to medical school and you feel called to be a journalist, then there needs to be a heartfelt discussion where you can feel seen and heard.

Living life by your design is not meant against anyone, but rather as a pathway to your mental and emotional well-being. It takes an act of courage to be yourself without apology. It takes self-love to look in the mirror and see the precious person that you are. It takes self-awareness to speak your truth. These qualities are earned through making time to reflect on who you are and where you want to go with your life.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

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