Is Your Teen A Bully?

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A Note From The LA Teen Therapist

13 million kids who are hurt by bullying every year… who’s doing it, and why? – Sandra

How should parents respond if they learn their teen is a bully?

What has happened to make kids purposely hurt others? How do we address the root causes? Did you know that kids with a diagnosis of depression were three times more likely to bully?

In our society, shame – making someone feel bad about themselves – is also a very acceptable parenting tool to control kids. Comparisons with siblings or other kids, mocking age and ability, making kids feel stupid or inferior… many children hear shaming and humiliating messages all day long. Doesn’t that sound similar to what some students endure at the hands of bullies?

Teaching Good Character Traits

Facial expressions, body language, tone and volume of voice, threatening violence, withholding affection, rejecting behavior, demeaning words, and physical punishment can impact a child’s self-esteem and teach them how to behave in an aggressive manner.

To really address bullying, we need to fundamentally change the way we see children, and begin to truly treat them with the respect that all people deserve. Good character traits, like empathy and respect, are skills that need to be learned at home. We have to teach our kids how we expect them to treat others – as well as show them how we expect them to treat others.

Bullying others is a choice. Compassion, kindness, respect, and any other moral characteristic are learned. There are many people who are good and nonviolent at heart, by choice.

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… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

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For more information, please visit my website:

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Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Summer Growth Opportunities for Teens

teencoupleSummer is a wonderful time to prepare for a fabulous start to the coming school year — for teens entering middle school, high school, or college.

  • For shy teens, this may mean working with a Social Skills Coach, to empower them with personalized tricks and tips to feel more confident in social settings.
  • For a teen with ADD, this may mean using the summer to work with a Teen Life Coach to master organizational and time management skills.
  • For a teen struggling with emotional issues, this could be a good time to work with a Teen Therapist to cultivate a self-care routine, as well as develop coping skills to manage stressors.
  • For teens transitioning to college, this is an excellent time to work with a Young-Adult Mentor, to take inventory of their strengths and vulnerabilities, and address anything left over from their childhood that might be helpful to support them in thriving.
  • For families with teens who are emotionally intense, the summer can allow the space for these teens and their parents to better understand their needs, and how to avoid meltdowns.

Allow me to demonstrate the support I can offer your family!

Worried About Your Teen? FREE Parent Consultation

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

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Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Is Your Teen An Artist?

A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Coach

In modern classrooms, where left brain skills are valued, creative teenagers can be given the message that something is wrong with them. -Sandra

 

IDENTIFYING CREATIVE PERSONALITIES
Not every teen is suited for college. It is important for parents to realize whether their adolescent is academically oriented or has more creative inclinations.

CUTBACKS IN SCHOOL SPENDING
With all the budget cuts in the public school system, many creative outlets are being taken away from those students. Band, theater groups, dance and art classes may not even be offered at some schools any more.

NURTURING CREATIVE EXPRESSION
For those students who are driven to express themselves artistically, parents can help their teens to find activities where they can thrive. After school programs are being offered through some local community centers and are also available in private classes.

TUTORING
For students who are struggling with traditional academic classes, they may benefit from having some support in the way of tutoring. In this manner, should they decide to continue on to higher education, they can learn the skills and information they will need.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

Worried About Your Teen? FREE Parent Consultation

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Dealing With Your Teen’s Hurt Feelings

A Note From the LA Teen Therapist & Life Skills Coach

When people hurt your teen’s feelings, or let them down, help them see this as an opportunity to move toward the kind of life they want to experience. – Sandra

HOLDING A POSITIVE FOCUS
If long time friends seem to be growing apart from you, this does not mean that you are unlovable, or that you will never speak to them again. Sometimes people and situations change and we need to say goodbye.

DON’T FOCUS ON FEAR
It is understandable for you to try and protect yourself from pain by being hesitant about starting new relationships. However, making new friends prove themselves over and over is an exhausting task to ask of them.

TRY REACHING OUT INSTEAD
Try to see the challenging situations from a more neutral perspective, trusting that in every moment, each person is doing their best. Focus on seeing the positive qualities in others. Practice being more gentle with yourself.

Note: If your teen is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it. I invite you take that critical next step, and allow me to demonstrate the support I can offer to you and your family.

… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

Worried About Your Teen? FREE Parent Consultation

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.

Teaching Teens Self-Reflection

DIGESTING LIFE EXPERIENCES
Self-reflection allows teens to determine what about a situation is unpleasant, and then come up with ways of dealing more effectively with similar experiences. They may come to realize that there are certain skills they still need to learn. They might also come to recognize ways to avoid or turn around those situations in the future.

Self-reflection allows teens to figure out more effective ways of being who they want to be in the world.

MAKING TIME FOR SELF-REFLECTION
The world is full of distractions, and many things that appear more exciting to teens than making time out for self-reflection. Yet, self-reflection allows teens to direct their lives instead of feeling ruled by forces outside of their control.

The kind of wisdom and self-control required for teens to become independent young adults doesn’t come all at once. It is gained by learning from their mistakes, and utilizing their experiences to lay a solid foundation for their life. 

FACILITATING SELF-AWARENESS
Try to set aside a portion of time each week to sit down with your teen to check in and discuss how they feel about the direction their life is going in. The best way to approach this is by inviting safe, heartfelt discussions. Ideally, you want to consider setting aside 20 minutes a day where there are no interruptions. Turn off cell phones and try to pick a time when you do not have other things that either of you need to be doing.

Try and stay on one topic during each discussion. Acknowledge your teen when self-awareness is successfully demonstrated and gently facilitate the process with open-ended questions when it is not. Try to make this a positive experience for your child.

Note: If your teen is struggling socially or emotionally, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it. I invite you take that critical next step, and allow me to demonstrate the support I can offer to you and your family.

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… EMPOWERING TEENS TO BE THEIR BEST SELVES.

“The best example of Sandra’s work is in my daughter’s renewed enthusiasm and attitude towards life. My daughter now sees every problem as one that can be solved, every uncomfortable experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Sandra’s work with my daughter has helped her become a more secure, confident and happy individual.”

Worried About Your Teen? FREE Parent Consultation

For more information, please visit my website:

SandraDupont.com

verified by Psychology Today

Adolescent Therapist|Parent Coach|Teen Mentor

Providing service for: Los Angeles, Santa Monica, Pacific Palisades, Malibu, Beverly Hills, Beverly Glen, Culver City, Brentwood, Westwood, Marina Del Rey, Mar Vista, Encino, Sherman Oaks, Topanga Beach and Topanga Canyon, Ocean Park, Hancock Park, West Hollywood.